The psychology of overcoming masturbation addiction: A guide for men

Over the last few years, every health magazine and tabloid in existence has been teaching us that masturbation is so good, that there is nothing wrong with masturbating and it has only pleasures and good things to offer. And we accepted that as holy grail of truth without questioning it and without using our own rationale or judgment about it.

After all, how can medical science be ever wrong, right? Especially the kind of science that makes wild proclamations based on half-baked research and experiments! To understand this, go back and ask yourself why did you even felt the need for taking approval from a bunch of medical scientists to continue masturbating? Why did you even have any reservations about doing this activity to begin with?

The problem with science

The problem with medical science is that it can only solve the problems which are amenable to the instruments and theories it has. These instruments or methods are quite capable of solving problems in some areas like mathematics, physics, engineering, etc. but human body is a far more complex machine for science to fully understand yet. It has stuff like instincts and feelings and conscience which science has no instruments to study, hence it doesn't venture into those areas and denounces any knowledge found on that basis as pseudo-science.

However, Nature is not just about what science can measure or experiment with. The fact that science currently has no means to study them doesn't mean they don't exist or can't be studied using any different method.

A feeling of disgust and contempt

Remember how you felt when you masturbated the first time in your life. I'm sure you experienced the feeling of this sweet and euphoric pleasure for the first time as the stored semen rushed out of your body as you kept touching and titillating your body parts. Maybe the same phenomenon happened on the second, third and fourth times too.

But what happened after you kept on doing that day after day (or night after night), repeating the act hundreds of times? Does the act still give you the same amount of pleasure and euphoria as it initially did? Or, has it become a matter of compulsion and addiction, a habitual necessity to simply throw out your semen? And how do you feel just after doing that act day after day, does your mind feel fulfilled and at peace, or does it seem agitated with feelings of contempt and disgust? Does it feel like cursing itself for doing this act one more time? If it doesn't, then stop reading this article right here, this isn't for you!

The value of semen

Sanskrit is an ancient language which was spoken across many South Asian countries including India and China, a language which many intellectuals applaud today as a scientific and advanced language of that time. The Sanskrit word for semen is Veerya, a word derived from Veer which means courage or valor. And indeed, its an observable fact in nature that once you stop wasting your semen for a considerable amount of time (~3-4 weeks), you'll start feeling more strong and courageous, you'll stop feeling depressed and fearful at extremely trivial things in life as you did earlier. The suddenly increased deepness in your voice, thickness in your hair and lowering of your blood pressure are also observable facts which again, science cannot "explain"!

But mind you, these are the facts which science will never accept or even acknowledge. Since it pertains to the domain of feelings and instinct which science can neither study nor dissect, it will still proclaim this as a pseudo science. Again, if you care about the approval of science in this particular matter, stop reading here and now.

The value of semen retention goes beyond simply the gift of courage or valor though, there are many other benefits provided you stick to it and do it with perseverance (which is the hardest part, of course).

Do it properly

First understand the concept of semen retention properly before deciding to do it. The hardest part is simply cultivating the habit of not fapping which is a Herculean task in itself! The problem is that habit is a strong force which has already built a structure around your psyche, breaking that structure requires your every ounce of strength and perseverance. Remember that feeling of contempt and disgust each time you feel like fapping, it should help you.

Our forefathers knew this which is exactly why they made this part of religion itself. There is a reason why giving in to your carnal desires is like literally giving in to the Devil himself in Christianity. They knew about the value of semen and how useful its retention is to the body.

It takes 40 drops of blood to create one drop of semen according to Ayurveda, the ancient Indian medical science (80 drops according to modern science). That's how scarce a component it is in your body though there are foolhardy people who disregard this by saying that a glass of lime-juice is all that is needed to gain back the calories or nutritional value, while conveniently forgetting that quality is far more important than quantity. But when you bring the argument about the observable benefits of semen retention, they will have no argument except "science says so"!

It doesn't mean you are sexually weak, in fact you are even stronger!

Semen retention doesn't mean that you should never have sex. In fact, on the few occasions when you'll indulge in it, you'll feel far more satisfied and the orgasms will be much longer and deeper. But the frequency of having sex has to be quite low in order to maximize semen retention in your body, the ideal according to ancient Taoist masters was about once in a fortnight. Its also better if you practice having sex while losing zero or as minimal semen as possible. It will take a lot of conscious muscle control but its possible.

But those are the later goals, firstly you need to stay in no-fap zone for at least a month. The temptation will be too strong in the initial days, mind you. This explains why so few people actually come out of this addiction, you need each and every ounce of your strength, will power, persistence in the initial days to overcome that one month barrier. After that, it becomes much easier as you'll start loving the "habit" of no-fapping and also the lack of disgust and contempt that it used to bring.

After two months, the now gained benefits like increased super self-confidence, deeper voice and breathing, glances and hits by the opposite sex, etc. become so apparent that you'll now realize that its definitely not worth going back to fapping at all, especially when you can get the real deal so easily now!

If you don't try it, then how will you ever know?

Always remember the Taco Bell's slogan! Even if you are one of those masturbation addicts who have actually started loving it and don't want to quit it, even then, I'd recommend you to try this at least once. There is no harm in giving it a try and who knows, you may actually start loving the benefits of no-fapping!